Greetings, Miss Manners I’m in my 30s and my partner is gay. We appear to be the lone couple in a committed, monogamous relationship. I frequently get asked, “Are you guys open?” when I indicate that I’m in a relationship in places intended for gay people.
I can’t tolerate it, but I’m not sure if this is a basic question or a come-on.
Although I don’t mind other individuals being openly involved or polyamorous, I find it disgusting to constantly discuss it or make one’s affairs public. When you feel under pressure to leave your monogamous ways, it’s even worse.
How can I honestly respond to this question without offending anyone or coming out as a jerk?
GENTLE READER: Not at all.
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