The advice column Dear Annie is written by Annie Lane.Publishers of Creators
To Annie, please: Since my brother threw my nephew out of his house when he was sixteen, he has lived with us. Then I got a call from my brother asking if he could stay with us. He was welcomed into my sister’s and my home.He still resides with us at the age of 35. I agree with my sister that he has changed negatively. He has told us that he wishes we had passed away by now. When my sister and I were out the other day, our nephew shut the gates to our house. Because of this, we were unable to reenter. To open the gate and enter our home, I had to scale a wall in my backyard and then leap over it. My sister is 59 and I am 65.He has become really offensive to us both. He wants to throw our cats out of the house, so we’ve had to lock them in our beds (he’s done this with one of my sister’s cats before).We’ve phoned the police twice, but they claim that since he hasn’t touched us, they are powerless to intervene. We want him gone because we’re scared. He doesn’t pay rent, work, or assist around the house. How can we proceed? — Sisters in Desperation
Dear Sisters in Desperation: When his own father refused to take care of him, your nephew is very lucky to have had you and your sister. However, you have both done everything in your power to help him. It’s time to prioritize your own well-being and, above all, your security.You’ll probably have to take legal action because your nephew won’t leave the house by himself. Your best option is to speak with a lawyer to determine how to proceed, especially since you mentioned that your nephew isn’t paying rent, as eviction rules differ depending on the state in which you reside. Keep doing what you have been doing to protect your animals and personal belongings from him. Do not hesitate to contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 or the police if his behavior worsens before you can get him out of the house.
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