To Annie, please: My mother was a violent drinker and drug addict when I was growing up. My upbringing was extremely unpleasant and terrible due to her struggles with severe mental illness and anorexia. I harbored animosity toward her for years because of the harm she did and the rage she threw at my brothers and me.
I later found out that my mother’s brother had sexually assaulted her when she was a child. Although this information does not justify her actions, it did help me comprehend the intense grief she was carrying and the reasons for her actions. It eventually made it possible for me to forgive and feel some sympathy for her.
How can people in comparable circumstances—who are coping with toxic or abusive family members—strive for forgiveness, understanding, and healing while simultaneously keeping themselves safe? — In search of peace
To Whom It May Concern: The best gift of all is serenity through forgiveness, which you have given yourself by comprehending your mother’s suffering and forgiving her. This does not imply that you have to stay in close contact with someone who still hurts you. T
Since healing and personal development take time, therapy or counseling can be very helpful in understanding your reactions, processing your feelings, and creating appropriate coping mechanisms. I appreciate you sharing your story. I hope that by printing your letter, others in similar circumstances will be encouraged and assisted.
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