Dear Annie: Blended families may enjoy holidays more if they consider adjusting the dates

To Annie, please: As a stepparent, I’ve discovered something unexpected: holidays don’t have to fall on certain dates.

Christmas Eve is as meaningful to our family as Christmas Day, and we’ve even celebrated Thanksgiving again on the Friday after, complete with leftovers and a freshly baked pie. We’ve also started switching up who gets which holiday every year. Everyone enjoys meaningful, quality time in this way, free from pressure or hurry.

It began as a means of preventing my stepchild from feeling torn between parents, but it has developed into a structure that works for everyone, including the extended family. For instance, in order to maintain a neutral environment and keep the attention on the kids, both my ex and my partner’s ex now stay at hotels rather than with the kids.

I’d want to spread the word about this concept, but I’m also wondering whether you think most mixed families could benefit from this strategy or if there are any drawbacks I should be aware of. In circumstances involving co-parenting or stepparenting, what guidance would you provide others navigating shared holidays? Blended Families

To Blended, Your method is considerate and kind; it’s a wonderful present for your family. Holiday celebrations that are adaptable might help kids feel less stressed and help everyone make lasting memories. Many blended families find success with this approach because it puts the children’s welfare first while encouraging peace amongst the adults.

Mutual respect and open communication are essential. I appreciate you sharing what has been effective for you.

For Annie Lane, send inquiries to dearannie@creators.com.

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