Greetings, Abby I’m in a cozy, affectionate relationship. We’ve spent twenty years together. Both of us were previously married to awful people. At first, we both stated that we had no intention of getting married again. However, I would like to marry him as we age and my health deteriorates.
I’ve made a few references about wanting a ring for my birthday or Christmas. Nothing has been transmitted. How can I talk to him about this? Furthermore, how can I discuss power of attorney and other matters with him if he is opposed to marriage? — A GLANCE AT MISSISSIPPI’S FUTURE
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Abigail Van Buren
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Dear Abby: Should I be concerned my husband s friend from childhood texted him heart-filled birthday wishes?
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Dear Abby: Visiting friend monopolizes the entire day, expects to stay the night. How do I stop her?
Greetings, eye: The last thing you should worry about is a ring. It’s time for you and your partner to have a serious talk. Would he want you to make medical decisions regarding his treatment in the event of an emergency? This also applies to financial choices. Is there a will in his mind? Do you?
You two ought to discuss this with a lawyer who can offer you advice. Health care directives should also be in place and communicated to your physician. There are ways to protect yourself that don’t need going to the altar if, even after 20 years of dating, this man still fears marriage. Please begin looking into them right away.
Abigail Van Buren, better known as Jeanne Phillips, is the author of Dear Abby. Her mother, Pauline Phillips, began the company. For more information, visit www.DearAbby.com or send an email to P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
