Greetings, Abby The daughter of my fiancé is expecting a child. The shower is being assisted by her mother.
For twenty-one years, my fiancé and his ex-partner have been separated. It was she who cheated on him, filed for divorce, and evicted him. He was taking me to her daughter’s wedding, so she threatened to skip it. It’s been nine years since we started dating.The ex doesn’t want me at the shower, therefore I’m not invited. Not even her house is being used for it. Although she doesn’t want to annoy her mother, his daughter likes me. The ex needs to mature and get a life, in my opinion. You can’t like me one day and not the next, so I told my fiancé that the whole thing was stupid, but now I don’t want to take a shower. What ought I to do? — COMPLICATIONS IN THE MIDWEST DEAR EX ISSUES: Act like the grownup your fiancé’s ex isn’t. Make plans with some of your friends instead of sitting by yourself and feeling sorry for yourself during the baby shower. Purchase a lovely gift for the child, give it to the mother later, and avoid creating a scene.
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Greetings, Abby Within a mile of my house, I was struck head-on by an intoxicated driver in a recent tragic car accident. My right leg was shattered in several places as a result.
I had an insurance claim when I purchased a car. My mother unexpectedly purchased the exact same car that was totaled in the collision for me within a month. The hitch is that my mother wants me to pay her the money I get from the sale of the car I bought.Initially, this was presented as a present. I feel like I have a debt hanging over my head right now. If I decide to sell, would it be impolite or self-centered of me to keep the automobile I purchased or the proceeds? Although the stimulus cheques have been beneficial, the accident that changed my life has left my financial future uncertain. INJURED IN INDIAINJURED NADEAR: Keep the car you bought. You know your mother meant well, so tell her so. After that, return the car she purchased, along with the keys and pink slip, so she can use it anyway she pleases. There will be less friction if you do.
Abigail Van Buren, better known as Jeanne Phillips, is the author of Dear Abby. Her mother, Pauline Phillips, began the company. For more information, visit www.DearAbby.com or send an email to P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
