Greetings, Abby My sister has special needs, and my spouse despises her. He stated she was terrible, obnoxious, and a negative influence on the children, yet he let her come for a brief vacation. She doesn’t use profanity or act inappropriately.
Despite her obesity and laziness, the children adore her and begged her to attend.
Because I am her legal guardian and handle her finances, he also yells at me whenever she calls, which she occasionally does. He wants me to stop doing it and give the authorities full control of her.It pains me that dad despises my sister, refuses to let her stay for a few days once a year, and accuses me of not listening to him or caring about his sentiments. He simply detests having her around and is under a lot of stress. To please him, should I sever my relationship with my sister? TWO IN NEW JERSEY PULLED IN
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DEAR PULLED: It seems that you married a domineering, self-centered man who doesn’t care about individuals with disabilities.
I’m hoping you won’t give in to his pressure and leave your sister behind. He has no right to criticize you for carrying out a duty to your family.
Maybe he should take a little vacation during the few days she is with you if he can’t bear her visit. Before he engulfs you completely, draw the line and demand it.
Abigail Van Buren, better known as Jeanne Phillips, is the author of Dear Abby. Her mother, Pauline Phillips, began the company. For more information, visit www.DearAbby.com or send an email to P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.