To Eric, My partner is avoiding his responsibilities by having suicidal thoughts, which is why I am attempting to divorce him. When he received my divorce petition, he was disappointed. He texted a number of individuals that day, and after the police conducted a welfare check, they took him to the hospital. He spent three weeks there.
My spouse then eagerly jumped at the chance to try mediation when I offered it, but when the mediator clarified that his method was far less expensive than appearing in court, he vowed to commit suicide if he was ever put on trial for our unresolved negotiations.
He wants me to agree to a deal that gives me around 15% of our combined fortune. I don’t want to create a precedent for divorces in the future where someone can say that if certain requirements aren’t fulfilled during the divorce process, they will attempt suicide. For the sake of humanity, what is the most compassionate thing to do in this situation?
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To Big Picture, Your husband is abusing you emotionally. By threatening suicide, he is attempting to control you and your feelings. The fact that he got some therapy following the welfare check is commendable, but it must continue. However, you cannot be responsible for ensuring that he receives it at this time. Furthermore, it’s best to rely on experts or others to assist him at this time for your own protection.
It can appear that everything will be resolved if you accept an unjust settlement. That isn’t accurate, in my opinion. His actions are domineering.
It’s crucial that you speak with an attorney if you don’t already have one and transfer all correspondence with your husband to them. You don’t have to communicate at this time.
To get to a safe area while this is happening, please contact family, friends, and/or the National Domestic Violence Hotline (thehotline.org, 800-799-7233) if you are still living in the same place. Both you and your spouse are at risk from your husband’s threats. To safeguard your safety, please utilize your support system and the legal and protective resources at your disposal.
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