To Eric, Since the majority of our family resides in our home state, which is across the nation from where we currently reside, my partner and I intend to have our wedding there because it makes more sense logistically.
We felt it would be fun to throw a separate party for our friends here instead of inviting them to our new state, which will also help to keep the actual wedding expenses down. Additionally, we don’t want to burden individuals with travel. Would showing pictures from the actual wedding at the second celebration be tacky?
Including everyone appears to be the best course of action, yet I don’t want anyone to feel excluded.
Double I Dos
To Double, please: Your suggestion is a kind gesture, as long as you don’t mark the pictures as “pictures from our real wedding.” My friends’ wedding was celebrated in three different ways, each with friends and family from various states. These were special events that demonstrated the breadth of my friends’ networks. We were eager to observe their activities in the other locations. On your wedding website, you might even wish to include links to the pictures from both weddings along with information about them. In this manner, everyone is aware of the goal and feels a part of the large, multi-state, multi-part celebration. Congrats, and enjoy yourself twice as much.
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Asking Eric: After the love of my life died, I found out he was in several other relationships besides ours
To Eric, Invisible Dad, who felt excluded from his family life, wrote a column that I read. I’ve got an idea. My dad started writing a newsletter every two months when he retired to update our extended family on what was happening in each other’s lives.
Back then, my dad would send out a newsletter to everyone in type, but these days, it’s easy to do it digitally. Periodically, he would give a few family members a call and ask them about their lives, asking them to share any family news they might have.
After that, he would compose the interviews and send them to every member of the family. He would alternate between members in doing this. I hope this could not only make Invisible Dad’s life happier but also assist the rest of his family stay in touch, as it was a great way for our distant family to stay in touch. Most importantly, it would be a fantastic opportunity to get him more involved with his family.
Every News Story
To Every News Reporter: Your dad gave your family a beautiful gift. I create a personal newsletter every week, just for enjoyment, and I adore how it keeps me in touch with both friends and complete strangers. For families, it’s a fantastic idea. Additionally, I would advise taping family member interviews. They may be completed directly on your phone, and I’ve found them to be priceless records of both history and emotion.
To All Readers: Regardless of how you choose to spend this weekend, I hope you will use it as an occasion to call or be in person with someone significant in your life and express your gratitude. Spending this time with you each day is something I’m thankful for.
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