Miss Manners: How quiet do I have to be in my own backyard to accommodate the neighbors?

Greetings, Miss Manners On either side of our fence are some really good neighbors. Our own outside seating area is about 20 meters from each house’s outdoor seats. We can hear beautiful birdsong, owls at night, and other sounds because we live next to a forest.

One neighbor has expressed her desire for a tranquil life and enjoys spending the most of her days outside. Given this, can I talk at a normal volume while I’m in my garden? Or should I soften my voice a bit?

It’s definitely not rude to have a casual chat at a casual volume when I’m enjoying coffee outside with my spouse and kids. I dislike having to whisper in my own garden, but I also don’t want to annoy my neighbor.

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PERSONAL READER: Miss Manners promises that you and your family are free to talk at a reasonable volume on your own land, but maybe with the stipulation that you control the noise if any of you become agitated.

With the possible exception of shouting, “Shhh, let’s be considerate of the neighbors!” merely to reward your work.

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