Greetings, Abby For the past three years, I, a gay male, have been having an affair with a married man. No one has filed for divorce despite their one-year separation. I’m not sure if he has the courage to move forward, even though I know he wants a future with me.
His wife still believes the marriage can succeed and continues to pray the gay away. She frequently sends him worship tunes and biblical verses. Although he has always been gay, he felt compelled to lead a false life due to his background and religious beliefs.
My family has met him and is accepting, even if his family isn’t. I want to know how long I have to wait. Waiting for someone else to decide my future is not something I want to squander my life on. In Pennsylvania, Cinderella
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Greetings, Cinderella You mentioned that your sweetheart and his wife are no longer together. He should have felt more at ease with his sexual preference after a year of living alone.
It’s time to let him know that you will have to move on unless he is prepared to seek therapy from a qualified professional who can assist him in discovering his identity and his goals.
Your current state of limbo is unhealthy for both you and HIM. If you must have a relationship, I hope it will be with an out homosexual man who is available and unattached.
Abigail Van Buren, better known as Jeanne Phillips, is the author of Dear Abby. Her mother, Pauline Phillips, began the company. For more information, visit www.DearAbby.com or send an email to P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
