To Annie, please: One of the people I’ve been dating has continuously treated me like a human ATM. He demands money from me every chance he gets, usually in ridiculous amounts, and when I don’t give it to him, he acts like a child in his 50s. Even worse, he makes a lot more money than I do.I’ve started advocating for myself lately, requesting that he return the money he has already stolen from me and refuse to comply with his demands. But when I bring up repayment, the topic becomes contentious. In his outbursts, he mercilessly makes fun of my difficulties with self-harm and declares that he wishes I would die.His remarks simply make my anguish worse and more difficult to handle, even if I use self-harm as a coping mechanism for intense emotions. I’m stuck in this poisonous relationship and don’t know how to get out of it. How can I deal with this conduct while safeguarding my finances and emotions? — Handled Like an ATM for Humans
To Human ATM, Getting help from a qualified therapist for your self-harm is the most crucial thing you can do right now. You should get help to deal with your suffering and find better coping mechanisms.The fact that you are in an emotionally abusive relationship is clearly evident. It is unacceptable that he would use you like a financial asset, refuse to pay back what he owes, and make derogatory remarks about your difficulties. You don’t need to put up with this.Please get in touch with groups like your local YWCA, which frequently offers programs to assist people in similar circumstances, or the National Domestic Violence Hotline. You must put your financial and emotional health first because this relationship cannot last. Now is the time to look after yourself!
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