Greetings, Abby I’m a 64-year-old gay man who lives in a big city and was born in the Deep South. I have over thirty years of experience here.
My issue is that I find it difficult to remain composed when speaking with my elderly parents. I’ve repeatedly stated that I don’t want to talk about politics, but Mom ignores me, especially because she doesn’t accept my sexual orientation.
Without considering my feelings, she extols the virtues of the most anti-gay politicians. She usually won’t let it go when I try to gently change the topic.I’ve gotten to the point where I don’t want to talk to either of my parents anymore. I’m devastated by the terrible things they’ve spoken. Should I keep quiet and put up with the pain, or should I trust my instincts and cut them off? They won’t change, I know that. SAN FRANCISCO: HEART DAMAGED
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DEAR WOUNDED HEART: Nobody benefits from silence. It only results in more of the same, as you have found. Inform them that it is heartbreaking what they have said.
You’ve already told your mother that you don’t want to talk about politics. This time, let them know that you will end the call and hang up if they bring up the topic again. Proceed if they disregard you and repeat the action.
Abigail Van Buren, better known as Jeanne Phillips, is the author of Dear Abby. Her mother, Pauline Phillips, began the company. For more information, visit www.DearAbby.com or send an email to P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
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