Greetings, Abby Because I was irresponsible and caused her to become pregnant, I married at the age of 27. We currently have a 16-year-old and three grown children. Although I haven’t been happy, I promised myself that I would move on once the kids were independent.
I met someone recently, though. We have met up a couple times, and she is divorced.
She invited me to live with her, but she went out of state when I told her I couldn’t.
We spoke almost daily, and now she doesn’t want to speak to me at all, which leaves me feeling lost. I’m upset with myself, not with her. Please, help me with this. — IN OHIO, SEARCHING
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Greetings, Searching You claim that you promised yourself that you would move on once the children were independent. Have you discussed such ideas with your spouse? How did you become the father of four children if you just married her to legalize your firstborn? If you had expressed your thoughts to her, there could have been fewer.Your youngest is now sixteen, you say. This implies that they will be regarded as adults in two years. Will you be attending college in the future? Will you continue to provide for them until they become 21? Kicking oneself for rushing into the romance is one method to deal with this. Additionally, I’ll say this: The woman you’re seeing has good judgment, as evidenced by her distance from you.
Abigail Van Buren, better known as Jeanne Phillips, is the author of Dear Abby. Her mother, Pauline Phillips, began the company. For more information, visit www.DearAbby.com or send an email to P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
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